Our Review:

Her Review September 2020

Originally released in 2013 under the name Dattch (meaning date catch), this dating app was re-branded to HER in 2015. HER claims to be the most popular lesbian dating app, and sets itself apart from others by being an app made for queer women by queer women.

HER has a more open approach, with the long-term goal of connecting queer women to their community rather than being a simple hookup app. It currently boasts over a million members in the US.

New members at Her in September 2020 in comparison

Here you can see how membership figures at Her are developing compared to others

Member activity at Her in September 2020 in comparison

This is how active Her members are compared to others

Signing Up

Her Registration
  • You can only sign up from Facebook and Instagram
  • Your Facebook/Instagram name is automatically your HER username
  • They grab your Facebook or Instagram photos onto the app (can be edited later)
  • Sign-up in less than a minute
  • No account verification process

HER only lets users sign up through their Facebook or Instagram accounts. They do this to verify the authenticity of those registering. This has raised protests before because they would mistakenly reject "masculine-looking" women (since men are not allowed to make profiles in the app). Once your account is connected, HER automatically grabs your profile photo, name, and birthday to build your HER profile.

Profile Information

Her Profile Female
  • Apart from photos, you can also upload text items
  • 8 photos are the optimum number of uploads (according to their stats)
  • You can view other members' friends list
  • Profiles are only on their first names
  • Shows their distance from current your location

Profile details include your name, age, height, sexuality, gender identity, relationship status, photos, text items, and friends list. You can set your gender as female, non-binary, agender, FTM, gender fluid, intersex, two-spirit, and so many more. Your friends list is public to everyone. HER suggest uploading 8 photos for others to get to know you. Any less is insufficient and any more might be overbearing.

Contacting Members

HER Messaging
  • You can only send messages to Friends and Matches
  • Swiping left or right match function
  • Upgrade to see who "Liked" you
  • Sending friend requests is free

You can view the photos and names of the people who liked you, but you can't see their profile. Only premium members can do it. Messaging is unlimited for free members, but messages can only be sent to friends and mutual matches. The free search feature is unavailable, and you can only see other profiles that are matched to you.

Special Features

HER created some special features exclusively curated for lesbians to meet and interact.

HER Feed
HER Event


Meet is the main feature of the entire app. Here you are presented with different profiles who meet your age and distance preference. You can swipe to either like or dismiss them. Once you mutually like each other or are friends, you can message each other.


The feed is a feature that lets you interact with members real-time without needing to be matches or friends. You can like or comment on posts, and you can add your own image or text post. Being active on this feature exposes you to more people and increases your visibility.


Events can be viewed and posted in the Feed. The best lesbian events in your area are posted here: from music festivals to cookouts to concerts to comedy shows. Attending these events will let you meet and socialize with lesbians.

Real Life Review

"The app isn't the best when it comes to the dating part. The profiles are either too insubstantial, or some of the girls I talk to end up ghosting me. There's just not a lot do unless you upgrade to premium. However, I loved using this app to see which events will be attended by a big number of lesbians, since my gaydar in public isn't always the best. I've met a lot of great girls through that alone, and some of them I ended up going on dates with." - Female Barista (24)

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Costs and Prices

Duration / Credits / CoinsCostsTotal
1 Month14.99 USD / Month14.99 USD
6 Months10.00 USD / Month59.99 USD
12 Months7.50 USD / Month89.99 USD
HER Costs
Free Services
  • Profile creation
  • View profiles
  • Send and receive messages
  • Notifications
  • Meet
    Swipe left and right on profiles presented
  • Feed
    Like and comment on posts and you can upload your own
Fee based Services
  • Online Now
  • Who Has Liked My Profile
  • Change Location
  • Unlimited Swipes
  • Read Receipts
    See when your message was read
  • Rewind Profiles
Payment Options
  • Credit Card
  • Via Mobile Phone

If you cancel your premium subscription, you can still use the benefits of the membership until the end of the period. But you won't be refunded for the remaining days. When it's due to renew, your premium membership will be inactive and you won't be billed again. You can only ask for a refund within a month of a transaction. 

Uninstalling the app or deleting your profile doesn't automatically cancel your subscription.


LGBTQ online dating can be intimidating in a straight-oriented industry, and HER has achieved its goal of solving just that. HER isn't originally a gay dating app just translated for lesbians, but an app with only queer women in mind from the very start. However, its re-branding from Dattch to HER in 2015 changed its system from 'lesbian dating app' to 'lesbian social app'. Yes, you will find women here, but you'll never know if they want to date or something more platonic. If you want other sites and apps that are more straightforward about dating, check our Matchmaking service category.



When was HER created?

Dattch was created in 2013 and it was renamed to HER in 2015.

When will the HER app be on Android?

The HER app is already available for both Android and iOS devices.

Where can I read HER's success stories?

You'll find success stories on the Blog section of their official website.

Are there fake profiles on the HER app?

They take extra measures (only allowing log-ins from Facebook and Instagram) to weed out fake profiles, but it would be best to err on the side of common sense and report users you find suspicious.


How do I contact HER?

You may contact them through email, their official website WEAREHER, or their various active social media accounts (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Tumblr).


How do I unblock someone on HER?

Blocking people is a permanent action and can't be undone.

How do I send a message on HER?

You can only send messages to Friends and Matches. You can get them by adding someone as a friend, and by liking people who have already liked you.

The app won't let me log in.

Make sure you are using the latest version of the app. If you're still encountering problems, you may contact their support team.

How do I sign up to HER without Facebook?

You can sign up using your Instagram account.

What does "user not available" mean?

This notice means the other person already deleted their account. Even though you can still your messaging history, you won't be able to see their profile or send a message anymore.

How do I change my profile picture on HER?

On the bottom of the screen, select "Me". You will find a white pencil icon on the bottom right corner of your current profile picture. Click on this to change your photo.

Can I cancel a friend request on HER?

No, you can't. But once she confirms it, you can just remove her from your friends list.

Does HER post to Facebook?

No, it won't. The HER team doesn't even have the capacity to.

Can I change my location?

Yes, but only after you purchase a premium membership.


How do I cancel my premium membership?

You have to go the App Store or Play Store in your device, find where your subscriptions are being managed, and follow the instructions from there.

How do I delete my HER account?

Go to "My Profile", select "Settings", then "Support", and finally choose "Close account". Once you delete your account, it can't be reactivated.

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  • 40 years

    One of the best sites yet

  • 33 years

    Free dating service, nice

  • 29 years

    Good site


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